A moment of… cuteness? Rory sprawled on the floor.
Month: April 2020
On the homestead blog: over the weekend I did some garden plumbing, installing piping and taps for the greenhouse.
A moment of cuteness: three pictures of Paladin leaning on the railing.
On the homestead blog for this week’s Caturday, nothing particularly dramatic happened; just a bunch of cuteness, as the cats have been spending more time in their house and cabins. #Caturday
Fun… Dejal Time Out is in three of the top features on the Mac App Store at present: “Focus and De-Stress”, “Apps for Working and Staying at Home”, and “Give Yourself a Break”. It’s nice to be loved.
On the homestead blog: for this week’s flock update, Rory with the ducks, broody chickens, and a new camera view. #FlockFriday
Since we can’t celebrate our anniversary touring the South Island of New Zealand, we celebrated with a tour of Skyrim. 🙂
I wanted to do something special to celebrate and mark the occasion of our 25th anniversary. So I commissioned a custom necklace pendant… and in a reference back to our Mac-shaped wedding cake toppers and Mac history, I wanted to make one in the shape of a Mac, specifically a Macintosh Plus, my first Mac:
I scoured the web for silversmiths with the skill and interest in such a project, and found Gennady Larin of Pazori in St Petersburg. (His Etsy store has a lot of intricate works, though be warned, a lot of skull motifs.)
We worked together for a couple of months to come up with the design and refine it. An early concept was to faithfully replicate the appearance of the Mac; this is a 3D model he created for me:
But we realized that using the scale-accurate dimensions would make a too-massive pendant. We experimented with a much thinner interpretation, plus plotting out our initials, DJ+JD in sapphires on the topaz “screen”, with a ruby representing the Apple logo:
In the end we settled on a design that more accurately preserves the Mac shape, while being more thin than the true proportions, and with a chain hole through the top to reduce the weight and keep it from twisting on the chain:
Once the design was finalized, Gennady bought the stones:
And cast the silver:
After finishing, polishing, and setting the stones, the final result:
On the back, an inscription celebrating the occasion, referring to the “four C’s” that we live by:
I purchased a chain separately, though it really needs a thicker chain. Here are the packaged pendant and chain:
A closer look at the pendant, still wrapped in plastic so I don’t get fingerprints on it before giving it to Jenn:
25 years ago today, Jennifer and I got married. Actually, technically it was yesterday, since it was in New Zealand, but we ignore the time zone differences. It was April 2, 1995.
(This post is adapted from a Dejal blog post from 10 years ago; I wanted to get our story on my personal blog, where it belongs.)
Ours was a rather unusual story at the time, though not so much anymore. You see, we met via the internet, before most people had even heard of the internet. Before there was a web browser (or at least before we had heard of one: Mosaic technically was released a couple of months earlier).
Back in 1993, I was attending the University of Auckland in New Zealand, and Jenn was at Lewis & Clark College in Portland, Oregon, USA. I was using the FirstClass BBS client software on my Mac, while she was using a text-based terminal at her part-time job at the college.
We were both fans of Star Trek, so were reading the rec.arts.startrek.current newsgroup via Usenet, and met via a posting there on June 18, 1993. We switched to email, and quickly became friends, and developed deeper feelings as we got to know each other better. This was all via text communication, so we discussed all sorts of things, and got to know each other really well. We still have a foot-high stack of printouts of our early discussions.
It doesn’t seem so strange to have e-friends nowadays, that you’ve never met in person, but back then it was definitely not the norm.
In due course, it was evident that we were in love. So we talked about getting together in person — remember, we were separated by nearly 7,000 miles of ocean, and just had emails and a few photos and other airmail correspondence. So on February 3, 1994 I flew to Sea-Tac and we met in person. So the first time we saw each other in person was at the gate in Sea-Tac (this was before the increased security, when non-travellers could go right to the gates). I stayed with Jenn in Portland for 5.5 weeks, getting to know each other even better, and exploring the area. Then I headed back to Auckland.
Our odd long-distance relationship continued, though that time apart was quite difficult for both of us. On August 17, 1994, Jenn moved to New Zealand, and on October 15, 1994 on Long Bay beach near the water edge, I proposed, and she said yes.
We set the wedding date for halfway between our birthdays, on April 2, 1995. (For some reason, we didn’t want to get married on April 1. Go figure!)
We’ve always been ones to do our own thing, and our names were another example. My surname was originally “Lambert”, but rather than Jenn taking my name, or using a hyphen or other convention, we decided to both adopt a new name of our choosing. We decided on “Sinclair”, and I legally changed my name, then she took it when we married (seems much easier for women to change their names when getting married).
Our wedding was in our own style, too. We didn’t want a big fancy traditional wedding, so we opted for a small informal affair on our favorite beach, Long Bay. We rented a shelter for the reception, and had the ceremony on the adjacent grass overlooking the beach. The ceremony was conducted by my late grandfather, who was a minister and came out of retirement for us. That was very special. And since we were (and still are!) unashamed geeks, our wedding cake had bride & groom Macs on top (see the photo).
Since meeting via the internet was so remarkable back then, we were interviewed by a local newspaper and TV station, who filmed our wedding. Some of the best footage of our wedding is from their pro cameras. Apple even gave us a PowerBook 150 laptop as a wedding present.
That was 25 years ago. 25 wonderful, happy years, and we love each other all the more deeply now.
What’s the secret of our success? The “four C’s”:
- Communication: talk through concerns, don’t use the “silent treatment”; always be honest.
- Commitment: those vows really mean something.
- Compassion: be supportive and considerate of feelings.
- Compromise: be flexible, come to agreements that you can both live with.
And of course love, which encompasses all of that and more. As Heinlein wrote, “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own”.
That’s worked for us. That, and starting out as e-friends, where all we had were our words, so we really got to know each other very well. We both work from home most of the time (even before the current pandemic), so spend a lot of time together, without getting on each others nerves too much. 🙂 So we must be doing something right.
Happy anniversary, Jennifer. I love you!